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Post by Dania on Sept 10, 2011 7:32:04 GMT -5
Why is it so difficult for folks to RSVP? All I want is a yes or no.  thanks for letting me vent. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 10, 2011 9:10:00 GMT -5
I share your vent, Dania! It is just not that difficult to pick up the phone (cell/text/otherwise) and say "yes" or "no", and it takes less than a minute. And in my never-to-be-humble opinion, it's just plain rude not to respond!  |
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Post by Susan on Sept 10, 2011 9:14:48 GMT -5
OH - one of my biggest pet peeves ever! How hard it is? Seriously - text me, call me, email me. It's not like we're asking for them to sit down a design an RSVP card and spend 3 hours crafting a homemade design just to RSVP. Text - 5 seconds..."I'm coming....!!" that's it! But it's impossible over the last few years to get anyone to do it. Especially if they are under the age of 30 it seems {my apologies to the under-30 crowd!} On invites I do for kids I add "RSVP required in order to eat...no RSVP I'm not cooking/ordering/preparing food for you!" or something similar. I get a slightly better response that way! LOL  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 10, 2011 9:40:35 GMT -5
...But it's impossible over the last few years to get anyone to do it. Especially if they are under the age of 30 it seems {my apologies to the under-30 crowd!},,, It's not just the under-30's...I've seen it at any age, and the 40-and-ups seem to think that we can read their minds and know their intent. One time, I even had a person that I barely knew tell me that I would "just know" that she would be coming! Really???  (Good grief...this hit a hot button with me this morning!) |
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Post by peterpan on Sept 10, 2011 10:18:44 GMT -5
Oh yes, the non-RSVPer. Definitely in my top two or three pet peeves! Even in a professional environment this is an issue these days. I will spare you the details, but really?? At least let me know you are not sure if you can make it. I get that everyone is busy and overbooked. If you don't even bother to respond, I'm going to assume you nave no interest in my project. So no whining if something doesn't go the way you think it should. Hot button indeed!! Sheeesh!!  |
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Post by Dania on Sept 10, 2011 11:51:27 GMT -5
Thank you all for venting with me......these are women 40-50 yrs of age.  It's for a crop at my home......I need to know how many tables and chairs to set up.  AND food. |
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Post by scrappykaren on Sept 10, 2011 11:57:06 GMT -5
That is also a big pet peeve of mine!
Gee how could someone turn down a good crop. I would RSVP with a yes in a heartbeat!
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Post by Noelle on Sept 10, 2011 12:59:50 GMT -5
Alot of the ones who did RSVP for our wedding didn't show up or call to let us know.
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Post by Karen W on Sept 10, 2011 13:36:14 GMT -5
Let me add that this one of my pet peeves as well! When did we all become mind readers!
Karen
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Post by Susan on Sept 10, 2011 14:07:19 GMT -5
Alot of the ones who did RSVP for our wedding didn't show up or call to let us know. for a wedding?!?!?!?!?!?!?!! ohmygosh - I would have been furious! with caterers and place settings and favors and seating to RSVP and then not show up is just rude! hopefully they compensated by sending a really REALLY awesome gift!!! |
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Post by animal on Sept 10, 2011 15:02:32 GMT -5
I think this a huge pet peeve for people. For our baby shower I told everyone that I would be giving out a prize for the first people who RSVP first. I got them ALL. ;D It just sucks that you have to offer an incentive to do something soooo simple. Aye yi yi  |
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Post by Dania on Sept 10, 2011 15:18:17 GMT -5
Noelle we had the same situation with Krystle's wedding. It can get pretty pricey with a sit down meal.  |
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Post by Basketlady on Sept 10, 2011 16:11:13 GMT -5
This is a huge issue for me, too. All those years of kids' birthday parties. How many favors do you buy? How many do you plan for with games?
Two years ago, I attended Squadron Commander School with DH. They had separate stuff for the wives--mostly on supporting the family members and what services were available. But there was one class on protocol and the biggie was RSVPing and thank you notes. RSVP within 2 days and thank you notes for EVERYTHING. Great advice!
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Post by 1whoscraps on Sept 10, 2011 16:26:31 GMT -5
ITA very frustrating. When I used to do Christmas Parties for work, we would sell tickets because my boss always believed if you charged then they are more apt to be committed vs free, even it was $5. And when I would have to give a final headcount I always told them 10% less than what we sold. Restaurants are supposed to be prepared to serve 10% more than what the final count is anyways. And in the end they charge you per plate but at a minimum they charge you your final count so I figured it if was more it would be covered and better than paying for a higher count that what actually showed..sometimes you have to be sneaky about these things.
Hopefully you can get some RSVPs soon, if not there is always calling them and tracking them down which really shouldn't happen to begin with.
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Post by Nikki on Sept 10, 2011 16:32:54 GMT -5
Oh, Dania! How frustrating!! (On a side note-I have a sister named Krystle, spelled that same way  ) We went to a wedding a little while ago. I remember the day the envelope came in the mail in July. I promptly checked one chicken, one beef, and put it right back in the mailbox. I know that for me personally, if I don't do it right now, it will sit and then get lost or forgotten. Someone went through the trouble to get those RSVP cards printed, addressed, stamped, etc. so it's the least I could do-and SO easy!! But like Susan and others mentioned, it is SO simple to RSVP these days. Texting, facebook message, email, PHONE CALL. Even a tentative response is still a response! I think we all can relate and feel your frustrations today! Those ladies are grown ups and oughta be ashamed!!! |
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Post by jenn on Sept 10, 2011 16:57:34 GMT -5
I vented about this once on another message board and so many people commented that you can't commit to something too far in advance, what if something more fun comes along? I could not believe it.
I solved the problem by excluding all those who failed to RSVP from the next event. When they asked why, I told them that since they did not RSVP to the last event, I thought that they would per fer not to attend similar functions. Some apologized and now RSVP, others rolled their eyes like I am a you know what.
Jenn
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Post by luv2scrap on Sept 10, 2011 18:58:51 GMT -5
Dania, I really don't get why people don't take that few minutes to call or send an email even when you as for an " Please R.V.S.P. by ". Vent anytime. You have the right and need to get things off your chest.
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AND food.
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